Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic.

And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems which store all our past hurts and disappointments are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr.

LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.

In How to Be the Love You Seek, author Dr. LePera whose integrative, holistic approach to psychology has attracted an international audience of millions offers a new path to healing our relationships. Harnessing the latest scientific research, she teaches us to recognize how unmet needs from our earliest relationships create our current, dysfunctional relationship patterns, and leave us in a state of constant internal threat, even with those closest to us.

This book, the last in her How To trilogy, illuminates the way out of trauma bonds and into relationships rooted in mutual respect and compassion.

In it, you will learn how to create safety in your own body and mind; identify your unmet needs; develop emotional resilience; cultivate heart coherence to build deep emotional connections with others; and maintain healthy interdependence in our communities.

Whether you struggle to maintain the kinds of relationships you want, or are facing a specific challenge with a spouse, partner, parent, sibling, child, friend, or colleague Dr. LePera teaches us how to break painful cycles and reconnect with the wisdom, appreciation, and compassion that lives in each of our hearts. It is our hearts innate capacity to love that is the true source of all healing.

When we tap into that power, we can become the love we seek.